1) Body language.
Communicating non-verbally:
- bill please
- pint please
- 'what did you say?'
- he's a loser
- I'm bored
- they smell
You can relax. Have relaxed body language.
Smile.
Eye contact.
How close you get to people. In the UK we have an invisible space around us about the length of a handshake.
Beware the zone of: flirty fishing :)
2) Talking and listening
Dale Carnegie: you can make more friends in two months by being interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
Listening is a skill but it also honours other people.
3) Asking open ended question.
4) Manners.
5) Don't be a miserable Christian.
Bear Grylls: Be the most enthusiastic person in the room
6) Don't be a weirdo.
John from unchurched background going to christian bbq and everyone was asked to go into kitchen and hold hands and sing bind us together.
7) Get a life!
Be interested in others but be interesting as well.
8) Always be prepared.
Carry tracts/alpha cards with you. Be prepared to give them out. Like an army soldier always being prepared to fire a rifle so we need to always be prepared to share something about the gospel.
Sharing Jesus' Story
Be away of the strength of the 'bridge' that's been built between you and the person you're speaking to. If your friendship is a '2 tonne' friendship, don't send over a 'gospel lorry' of 10 tonnes. Learn which bits to say and not say depending on who you're speaking to.
