Steve Oliver - Center Parcs

Story:

Japeelo
feeling called ot bring hope to Africa, to the daisy's of Africa. Felt God speak to him about preaching the gospel to Japeelo. Not being used to this, he was scared, but felt God had called him so he went.
The man was dressed in a blanket and hat, sitting at the edge of the his appartment.
Apartheid had just come to an end.
How are you?
Not good, I am scared. I have a pain in my heart and feel scared since I think I am going to die and I'm not sure what will happen to me.
Steve: [God obviously knows he needed to make it easy for me!] told him about Jesus.
Man replied: but I have been told that Jesus is the God of the white man only.
He then led Japeelo to the Lord, went home and told Heather.
Japeelo led his wife to the Lord.
After a year away Steve returned and Japeelo was waiting for him and said 'come on, they are waiting for you!' his whole family, village and extended family were there. Steve told them about Jesus and led many to the Lord.

Gave up his house and life in Cape Town (businessman with all the toys/car/house) and moved to the country (only house within a mile), and planted a church among the poorest of the poor.Started a church in Clarins, felt God say 'prepare for 500 people for Sunday,' no marketing no plan, bought enough food for 500 people. First baptism in the church 94 people got baptised!  that grew and led to seven other church plants. The region later changed it's name (to Dihlabeng) after apartheid to the name of the church since it had been such a blessing to the area and made such an impact.

They were looking after 350 hiv aids sufferers at any one time. Transformed the health care and education system. The church's influence was dramatic all because Jesus isn't the god of the white man only.

Then on to Dubai.

- Jesus is the saviour of the nations. 

Position yourself for the purposes of God

CS Lewis, keep nothing back...

The principle runs through all life from top to bottom. Give up your self,
and you will find your real self. Lose your life and you will save it.
Submit to death, death of your ambitions and favourite wishes every day and death of your whole body in the end: submit with every fibre of your being, and you will find eternal life. Keep back nothing. Nothing that you have not given away will ever be really yours. Nothing in you that has not died will ever be raised from the dead. Look for yourself, and you will find in the long run only hatred, loneliness, despair, rage, ruin, and decay. But look for Christ and you will find Him, and with Him everything else thrown in.

Two people from scripture. Abinadab and Obed-Edom
2 Samuel 5. Dagon vs Yahweh. 6 the Ark gets sent back to the Israelites. 7 The men of Kerith Jarim bring the Ark to the house of Abinadab.

- You cannot put God alongside the other gods in your life.

If you want to put God into your life you must get rid of the other gods in your life.

He is Lord and saviour. Come under is rule and reign.
Ease of life is our biggest threat in this nation. What we have is not the norm. We are part of about 2.5% of the world's population.

If we are going to see the gospel take effect in this nation and across the world we are going to need to see a generation of young people live sacrificially.

When pressures come the temptation is to erect more 'dagon' gods in our lives. Let them die.

Abinadab: leaves the Ark alone and is relived when it goes, one of his sons (Uzzah) gets killed as the Ark leaves.
Obed-edom:

Steve's comments as a South African church planter of the UK church:
- Ease. Love of and pursuit of an easy life.
- Refusal to take risks. Obsession with planning everything.
- Lack of expectation.
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2 Samuel 6. Abinadab had the Ark for twenty years and nothing. Obed-Edom has it for a few months and experiences great blessing.

CT. Studd. Cambridge graduate. Inherited an estate/home house of equiv. £52m. Gave his £52m away, gave his life to the mission field. 

Two little lines I heard one day,Traveling along life’s busy way;Bringing conviction to my heart,And from my mind would not depart;Only one life, twill soon be past,Only what’s done for Christ will last.

SPECTATOR: Christmas

Best of all is a letter from a British soldier to his sister, written on Christmas Day 1914 in a trench on the Western Front, describing the truce that broke out after German troops ventured into no man’s land to bury their dead:

These are not the savage barbarians we’ve read so much about. They are men with homes and families, hopes and fears, principles and, yes, love of country. In other words, men like ourselves. Why are we led to believe otherwise? All nations say they want peace. Yet on this Christmas morning, I wonder if we want it quite enough.

SPECTATOR: collect intelligence trumps individual intelligence

However, I mean something more than this. I mean that human achievements are always and everywhere collective. Every object and service you use is the product of different minds working together to invent or manage something that is way beyond the capacity of any individual mind. This is why central planning does not work. Ten million people eat lunch in London most days; how the heck they get what they want and when and where, given that a lot of them decide at the last minute, is baffling. Were there a London lunch commissioner to organise it, he would fail badly. Individual decisions integrated by price signals work, and work very well indeed.

And here is the key insight from evolution. Our brains grew big long, long before we achieved civilisation. We’ve had 1,200cc of intelligence for half a million years: even Neanderthals had huge brains. For 99 per cent of that time we were just another hard-pressed species, as bottle-nosed dolphins are today, and around 75,000 years ago we teeter-ed on the brink of extinction.

What changed was not some bright spark of a new gene being turned on, but that we began to exchange and specialise, to create collective intelligence, rather than rely on individual braininess. To put it another way, dozens of stupid people in a room who talk to each other will achieve far more than an equal number of clever people who don’t. The internet only underlines this point. Human intelligence is a distributed, collaborative phenomenon

Langon Gilkey - The Shantung Compound

Excerpts/quotes from Langdon Gilkey's Shantung Compound.

The moment freedom came:

The day, August 16 1945, was clear blue and warm, as such a day should have been. We all began our chores of cooking, stoking and cleaning up slops as usual. About the middle of the morning, however, word flashed around camp that an Allied plane had been sighted...
... the boy who spread the word... ran through the kitchen yard screaming in an almost insane excitement, "An American plane, and headed straight for us!"

We all flung our stirring paddles down beside the cauldrons, left the carrots unchopped on the tables, and tore after the boy to the ballfield. This miracle was true: there it was, now as big as a gull and heading for us from the western mountains. 
As it came steadily nearer, the elation of the assembled camp- 1500 strong - mounted. This meant that the Allies were probing into our area, not a slow thousand miles away! And people began to shout to themselves, to everyone around them, to the heavens above, their exhiliration:

"Why it's a big plane with four engines! It's coming straight for the camp - and look how low it is! Look, there's the American flag painted on the side! Why, it's almost touching the trees!... It's turning around again... It's coming back over the camp! ...Look, look, they're waving at us! They know who we are. They have come to get us!"

At this point the excitement was too great for any of us to contain. It surged up within us, a flood of joyful feeling, sweeping aside all our restraints and making us its captives. Suddenly I realised that for some seconds I had been running around in circles, waving my hands in the air and shouting at the top of my lungs. On becoming aware of these antics, I looked around briefly to see how others were behaving.

It was pandemonium, the more so because everyone like myself was looking up and shouting at the plane, and was unconscious of what he or anyone else was doing. Staid folk were embracing others to whom they had barely spoken for two years; proper middle-aged Englishmen and women were cheering or swearing. Others were laughing hysterically, or crying like babies. All were moved to an ecstasy of feeling that carried them quite out of their normal selves as the great plane banked over and circled the camp three times.

This plane was our plane. It was sent here for us, to tell us the war was over. It was the personal touch, the assurance that we were again included in the wider world of men-that our personal histories would resume - which gave those moments their supreme meaning and their violent emotion.

Then suddenly, all this sound stopped dead. A sharp gasp went up as fifteen hundred people stared in stark wonder. I could feel the drop of my own jaw. After flying very low back and forth about a mile from the camp, the plane's underside suddenly opened. Out of it, wonder of wonders, floated seven men in parachutes! This was the height of the incredible! Not only were they coming here some day, they were her today, in our midst! Rescue was here!


Fate:

Fate it thus the mask God's judgment in history wears to those who do not know him.

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The fate that overtook the white residents of China was neither arbitrary nor blind. Rather, it represented the slow but certain unraveling of the consequences of the greed and intolerance which accompanied the imperialism of their forerunners. 

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On meaning and fate for the unbeliever and believer:

For the man who knew nothing of divine Providence, coming to camp was an arbitrary fate that separated him from every familiar meaning by which he had lived his life. To those - and there were many - who found this new situation to be a strange work of Providence, however incomprehensible these purposes were, there could be no such loss of significance in the new and unexpected situation.

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Our particular jobs of salesman, professor, or senator may prove useless in a camp or even in the next historical moment. But our neighbour is always with us, in the city, in the country, or in the camp. If the meaning of life on its deepest level is the service of God - which in turn means the service of the neighbour's needs and fellowship with him - then this is a task that carries over into any new situation.

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On these two bases, therefore - the universal lordship of God and the universal presence of the neighbour with whom we can establish community - a significant vocation or task with religious roots cannot be removed by the ups and downs of historical fortune

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One of the strangest lessons that our unstable life-passage teaches us is that the unwanted is often creative rather then destructive.

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Only in God is there ultimate loyalty that does not breed injustice and cruelty, and a meaning from which nothing in heaven or on earth can separate us.

GROW: The adventure and the call

When Earnest Shackleton was trying to recruit men to sign up for his expedition across the Antarctic, legend has it that he posted an advert in the Times newspaper:

Men wanted for hazardous journey. Low wages, bitter cold, long hours of complete darkness. Safe return doubtful. Honour and recognition in event of success."

 (Sam, cool images are on the web of this advert that could be used in article)

Thousands of people applied. 

Jesus also put out invitations for people to join him and his kingdom movement; an insurgency operation aimed at overthrowing the established order. He challenged his hearers to join him and form part of a new community known for its radical generosity, enemy love and devotion to one another. 

To be part of his band of believers he called people to turn their backs on their old lives, to give up everything and to accept persecution as a likely reality. Thousands applied, hundreds followed him but at times only the original twelve could handle it.* 

Living as a follower of Jesus has never been the easy option in life. It is the narrow way, the denial of self and the fragrance of death to some. It requires guts to follow Jesus and an appetite for adventure like that of those men who applied to be part of Shackleton's mission. 

 

What's in a name?

Passivity isn't possible for the Christian, at least it shouldn't be, since living as a Christian requires activity and exertion. Don't believe me? Consider the terms used in the Bible to describe the church.  

In the book of Acts there are seven different words or terms used to describe the earliest Christians. Those words are: Followers of the Way, Believers, Disciples, Those who call on the name of the Lord, Saints, Christians and Brothers and Sisters. It's worth observing that all seven refer to or imply activity. Christians are those who follow, believe, obey, pray, live righteously (saints), mimic Jesus' lifestyle (Christians) and behave brotherly or sisterly toward one another. 

On top of that Christians are also called: ambassadors, witnesses, soldiers and athletes. Actively pursuing and living for Jesus is meant to be a constant and ongoing part of a Christian's experience. 

Don't give up.

When driving a car it's sometimes the case that another road user doesn't see you and pulls out in front or cuts into your lane forcing you to slam on the brakes or swerve to avoid them. When this happens you might get angry or panicky but rarely does anyone just stop their car and get out exclaiming 'I give up! Driving clearly isn't for me, it's too risky; I'll walk from now on!' Even if that's how you feel you wouldn't do it because doing that wouldn't help you get to where you're going. 'I have a destination to reach,' you think 'and nothing, no amount of crazy drivers, is going to stop me getting there.'

It's the same in the Christian life. Things will trip us up, we will fall down and stumble and stutter in prayer and struggle to believe. The good things in this life will fight for our attention and devotion. We will be tempted to live for our careers, or for our partners affection or our kids approval. We will be tempted to believe that money or approval is the source of life's joy. We will look to the things around us to derive our identity instead of looking to Jesus. But don't give up. 

We have a destination to reach, eternal, full-fat and overflowing joy. We're being made more and more into the character of Jesus, we're proving and enjoying the power of God. We're being prepared for a never-ending, whole-hearted satisfying life with God in the new Creation. 

No man gets left behind.

The people you're living your life around matter to God. The people you stand next to Sunday by Sunday matter to God and the friends in your life matter to God. Given that the Christian life is hard, that it requires an ongoing commitment, and given that there's plenty of things that could potentially derail us, we should expect that the people around us may need us. And, if they're anything like you, they're unlikely to tell you that they need you. 

What marked Christianity out from the religions of its day and what set it's course for becoming the dominate faith in the western world was its community. Whereas people were used to simply attending a temple, making an offering and going home again the Christians lived their lives together. They shared their possessions, met daily in one another's homes, prayed together, wept together and ate meals together; they challenged one another to trust Jesus under horrible circumstances, the committed themselves to one another and they served one another.

We need one another, the people around you need you. We need to start looking out for one another and adopt the military's 'no man gets left behind' attitude. The church needs more men and women who are willing to love the people around them enough to make their walk with Jesus part of 'their business.' Are they in a group? Do they need encouragement to come to church? Could they do with someone praying for them? We won't know unless we ask, we won't ask unless we care and we won't care unless we realise how much they matter to God. 

Writing about the poor and needy in the 20th Century William Booth once wrote: 

While women weep, as they do now, I'll fight; while little children go hungry, as they do now, I'll fight; while men go to prison, in and out, in and out, as they do now, I'll fight; while there is a drunkard left, while there is a poor lost girl upon the streets, while there remains one dark soul without the light of God, I'll fight — I'll fight to the very end!

We need some of that fight in the church again.  

Pete Cornford - Church Plantng

Introduction

Church Planting:

George Carey

I am convinced that church planting is a must of vigorous and outgoing Christianity, and is a sign of hope for the future.

Sandy Millar

The only effective way to grow churches quickly is to plant churches.

John Wimber

The most effective way of expanding the Kingdom of God was by planting new churches. We still believe that here.

John Hosier 

I have often heard it said, and I agree, that the church is God’s A plan to evangelise the world and there is no plan B. If it is true then it is vital that we plant and establish churches according to the biblical pattern.

Tim Keller

A vigorous and continuous approach to church planting is the only way to guarantee an increase in the number of believers, and is one of the best ways to renew the whole body of Christ.

Newfrontiers is a worldwide family of churches together on a mission to establish the kingdom of God by restoring the church, making disciples, training leaders and planting churches.

WHY CHURCH PLANT?

1. Why Plant Churches?

“You who call on the Lord, give yourself no rest, and give him no rest till he establishes Jerusalem and makes her the praise of the whole earth.” 

God’s purpose for his church

• The light of the world.            (Isaiah 60: 1 – 3, Is 62: 1 - 2) 
• The praise of the earth.            (Isaiah 62: 7)  
• The wisdom of God.   (Ephesians 3: 10) 
• The dwelling place of God (Revelation 21: 3).  

Terry Virgo

The church is a prophetic community - God's vehicle for the blessing of the nations.  We have the promises of heaven behind us and Christ with us wherever we go.  Let's give ourselves to this high calling. 

Richard Bauckham 

Jesus in his ministry proclaimed the coming Kingdom of God and practiced its presence.  That is, he anticipated the future hope of the unrestricted, uncontested sovereignty of God, by extending God's rule in the present and inviting people to live within it. 

Church Planting for a Greater Harvest (Peter Wagner)

“Collectively... we can scarcely feel we are obeying God if we fail to plant churches and plant them intentionally and progressively.”  

ANNEX: THE RESTORATION OF THE CHURCH

1. The Dark Ages Why?  "I am amazed that you are so quickly deserting him who called you by the grace of Christ for a different gospel."  (Gal 1: 6)

2. Wycliffe a. Rediscovery of the Bible.

(14th Century) b. Need for evangelistic preachers 

3. Luther a. Justification by faith.

(16th Century) b. Priesthood of all believers.

c. Congregational worship.

4. Calvin a. Doctrine of grace.

(16th Century) b. Primacy of preaching.

5. Anabaptists a. Water baptism.

(16th Century) b. Separation of church and state.

c. Withdrawal from worldliness, especially violence.

6. Puritans a. Simplicity of worship.

(17th Century) b. Primacy of preaching.

c. Power of publication.

7. Non Conformists a. More biblical modes of church gov

(17th Century) b. Pietists, personal devotions.

8. Moravians a. Koinonia.

(18th Century) b. Prevailing prayer.

c. Missionary zeal.

9. Wesley a. Field preaching.

(18th Century) b. Lay preaching.

c. Signs and wonders.

d. Social reform.

e. Christian education.

f. Small Groups.

g. Discipleship and accountability.

10. Carey, Livingstone a. Foreign missions.

and Taylor (19th Century)

11. Booth, Muller, Barnardo a. Home missions.

and Moody (19th Century)

12. Pentecostal Movement a. Evangelistic zeal.

(20th Century) b. Gifts of the Spirit.

c. Healings.

13. Restoration Movement a. Body ministry.

(20th Century) b. Worship.

c. Discipleship.

d. Kingdom of God.

e. Victorious eschatology.

Failure & Disappointment

USA

92% exist after 2 years

81% exist after 3 years

68% exist after 4 years

20%…. is that a myth?

John Ortberg

Failure is not an event, but rather a judgement of the event.

Theodore Roosevelt

Its not the critic who counts; its not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena… who, at best, knows in the end the triumph of great achievement, and who,at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly. So that his place will never be with those cold timid souls who know neither victory or defeat.

The Multiplying Church

Bob Roberts

The real key to a church planting movement doesn’t lie in the individual church that is planted, but in the incubators that produce churches.

Church planting is what I do. Church multiplication is what we do

Its not enough to start churches for the sake of evangelism that will end when conversion takes place.

Gospel planting - the focus is not on the act of church planting itself.

Churches have to own church planting.

I believe every Christian should be part of at least one new church plant.

The biggest obstacle to planting other churches is other pastors

Most planters need encouragement more than new ideas.

Churches that plant churches must be able to do it at a size of 75 or it will never happen.

There is not one particular profile that a church planter must fit... However they’re all daredevils at heart.

No vocational ministry requires more self-initiating skills than that of church planting.

Addition - simply adding one more here and there - requires money and mimicking. Multiplication requires passion and creativity.

A new church plant will grow only to the level and the quality of leaders who are raised up and engaged.

There is no greater stress point in a new church than that of finances.

There are 2 key reasons why new churches fail. First, the leadership of the planter is not sufficient. Second, the marriage of the planter is not secure.

What we need more of are not church starters but church finishers.

Any vision that doesn’t require your entire life isn’t a vision; its just a thought.

Conclusion

Roger Forster

“Where a denomination has stopped planting churches, it will decline… where churches are structured to reproduce themselves, then that particular movement of churches will continue to grow.”

John Piper

Why is church planting so important?

• There are about 200 million non-churched people in America, making America one of the four largest “unchurched” nations in the world.
• Each year about 3,500 churches close their doors permanently.
• Today, of the approximately 350,000 churches in America, four out of five are either plateaued or declining.
• One American denomination recently found that 80% of its converts came to Christ in churches less than two years old.

Tim Keller

Jesus & Paul were committed to making disciples and planting churches.

New churches best reach new generations, new residents and new people groups

New churches best reach the unchurched - 60-80%new members come from ranks of people not attending any worshipping body, whiles churches 10-15 years gain 80-90% members transfers from other congregations.

Church Plants help renew the whole body - 

• new ideas, 
• develop creative strong leaders, 
• challenge establish church to self evaluate
• may be evangelistic feeder for who church community

Tim Keller

“Our attitude to new church development is a test of whether our mindset is geared to our own institutional turf or to the overall health and prosperity of the kingdom of God in a city.’

The vast majority of U.S congregations peak in size during the first two or three decades of their existence and then remain on a plateau or slowly shrink.

Tim Keller

New Church planting is the only way that we can be sure we are going to increase the number of believers in a city, and it is one of the best ways to renew the whole body of Christ.”

Sandy Millar HTB

No ministry at Holy Trinity has been more determinedly pushed by Sandy Millar than that of church planting…Nothing has given him greater pleasure than when the plants themselves have planted churches.

Robinson & Smith

“The world is constantly changed by committed minorities and not by apathetic majorities...”

They argue to be true church planting churches that we should send 3% of our church congregation every year for 10 years!

Peter Wagner

“The most effective means of growing churches today is planting churches.”

Colin Baron

“God has called us as a movement to this great task of planting churches. As God builds our family of churches into an army on the move I believe we will be amazed at the increasing rate churches will be planted.”

Terry Virgo

“Planting a new church is not easy, but if we handle it well, is the most effective way of evangelising a new area.”

Really looking to be a Church Planting Movement….

… is a rapid and multiplicative increase if indigenous churches planting churches within a given people group or population segment.

Books Used

Coaching Church Planters Steve Nicholson

What on earth is the church for? Dave Devenish

Christ radiant Church John Hosier

Church Planting our Future Hope        Charlie Cleverly

Radical Church Planting Roger Ellis & Roger Mitchell

A People Prepared Terry Virgo

Invading Secular Space Martin Robinson & Dwight Smith

Churchquake                 Peter Wagner

Church Planting Course David Stroud

Church Planting Manual Stuart Murray

Cutting Edge Magazine Vineyard

Planting Churches Changing Communities David Stroud

Church Planter Darren Patrick

Church in the making Ben Arment

The Multiplying Church Bob Roberts

Exponential Dave & Jon Ferguson

Father's Day research:

Fathers4Justice:

Nearly 1 in 3 children in the UK now lives without a father

• The UK has the highest rate of family breakdown in Western Europe. Eurostat, 2014
• The cost of family breakdown across the UK is £48bn a year. Relationships Foundation, 2016
• Fatherless young people are almost 70 per cent more likely to take drugs and 76 per cent more likely to get involved in crime. Addaction, 2011
• More boys aged 15 have a smartphone than live with their father. Centre for Social Justice, 2014

Kids growing up in homes without a dad:

• 5 times likely to commit suicide
• 32 x likely to end up in prison

UNICEF:

UNICEF describe father absence as the greatest social issue of our time

Psycholotytoday.com

Psychologist Edward Kruk:

According to the 2007 UNICEF report on the well-being of children in economically advanced nations, children in the U.S., Canada and the U.K. rank extremely low in regard to social and emotional well-being in particular. Many theories have been advanced to explain the poor state of our nations’ children: child poverty, race and social class. A factor that has been largely ignored, however, particularly among child and family policymakers, is the prevalence and devastating effects of father absence in children’s lives.

Researchers have shown that for children, the results of growing up in a fatherless home are nothing short of disastrous, along a number of dimensions:

85% of youth in prison have an absent father.

71% of school dropouts are from fatherless homes.

90% of runaway children have an absent father.

-physical health problems (fatherless children report significantly more psychosomatic health symptoms and illness such as acute and chronic pain, asthma, headaches, and stomach aches)

Physcologists: Moore and Gillette commented over 30 years ago:

We face a crisis in masculine identity of vast proportions. Increasingly, observers of the contemporary scene­, sociologists, anthropologists, and depth psychologists-are discovering the devastating dimensions of this phenomenon, which affects each of us personally as much as it affects our society as a whole.

The Federalist blog

IMAGE: Dad trying to watch TV     humour 

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Written by a dad on the responsibilities of fatherhood:

After all, the only reason we are being celebrated is because we are dads, and being dad comes with myriad responsibilities. It’s not just guarding the thermostat, mowing the grass, and putting our dirty laundry in the general vicinity of the laundry basket. It’s also attempting to do projects we said yes to when we weren’t really paying attention or because we watched a YouTube video.
In the end, though, our wives and children do appreciate us, and they take time to show us just how much.

Nicole Russell (journalist):

My dad represents the Holy Grail of fatherhood. He attended every sporting event, spoke affirmingly to me all the time, and we spent hours on a bike, boat, or in the backyard. Dad taught me how to shoot a rifle, how to engage my mind before I engage my emotions, and what to expect of a man who expects to spend his life with me. We wrangled science and faith, politics and government, boys and my brother.
It was through the lens of my relationship with him I gauged every single relationship I had with a male. Few made the cut as friends or otherwise. If I thought a man couldn’t live up to the kind of man my Dad was—or, let’s be honest, maybe half that—he might as well hit the road. Up until I left for college, when my dad returned from work, I always greeted him at the door with a hug.

On the strange response of criticism she sees in herself toward her husband:

Funny though, how when my husband and I became parents, I felt less starry-eyed at first, and much more judgmental about the kind of dad my husband could be. My husband is no dummy, but I’ve rolled my eyes at the outfits he puts our kids in, instead of just being thankful he’s clothing their naked bodies. Or I’ve prepared a speech in my head when I overhear the way he plays, or disciplines, or speaks to one of our four children, ages 8 to 18 months.
Yet I’ve come to realize that, while my husband parents differently than I do, it’s no worse, and probably no better. My husband is one of the most engaged fathers I know. Whereas I tend to be more serious, analytical, and task-driven, he brings levity, adventure, and a joke when one is needed. He regularly engages our children in spiritual discussions, takes them on day-trips around Virginia (bentures, my three-year-old calls them) and throws pillows across the room at their heads. For this, they squeal when they hear him walk through the door and they run to greet him, just like I did with my dad. 

Study from SWITZERLAND on Father's in church:

In short, if a father does not go to church, no matter how faithful his wife’s devotions, only one child in 50 will become a regular worshipper. If a father does go regularly, regardless of the practice of the mother, between two-thirds and three-quarters of their children will become churchgoers (regular and irregular). If a father goes but irregularly to church, regardless of his wife’s devotion, between a half and two-thirds of their offspring will find themselves coming to church regularly or occasionally.

The story of Francis Bok: 

10years a slave in Sudan, escaped and now living in the US working as an abolitionist. Aged 7, he could not count to ten and knew very little of the outside world. On his first trip to the market without his mother where he was sent to sell eggs and peanuts, he was captured by raiding Islamic militia and enslaved.

He was beaten with sticks by his captor's children, told he was no different from the animals, He was forced to tend the family's herds of livestock and soon realised that his father was not going to be able to save him. He was alone and kept in constant isolation, unable to talk to anyone and threatened with the loss of a limb if he laughed or spoke out of turn. He was forced to convert to Islam and given a new name. When he was 17 years old he escaped.

Francis remembers his mother as beautiful and loving. His father was a strong and cheerful man:

. . . he would tell me important things: ‘I know you’re little but you must listen to what I say. . . You will grow up to be like your father. . . . I want you to be a good man, a good member of the community. I want you to have a good life. . .’ My father had always encouraged me, treated me as special.

But most of all, Francis remembers his father telling him he was strong: “You are muycharko!” which means “You are twelve men!”

‘God is always with you,’ my parents had told me. ‘Even when you are alone, He is with you. . . . When you ask God for what you need, He will help you . . .’ Alone at night sitting in my hut, I remembered that. My father once said to me, ‘Even when you are one, you are two. If you are two, you are three.’

I was really muycharko . . . I began to believe that my father had been right: I was really ‘twelve men.’

First Things Magazine: The Preferential Treatment of the Poor
Russell Reno

A Christian who hopes to follow the teachings of Jesus needs to reckon with a singular fact about American poverty: Its deepest and most debilitating deficits are moral, not financial; the most serious deprivations are cultural, not economic. Many people living at the bottom of American society have cell phones, flat-screen TVs, and some of the other goodies of consumer culture. But their lives are a mess.

Want to help the poor? By all means pay your taxes and give to agencies that provide social services. By all means volunteer in a soup kitchen or help build houses for those who can’t afford them. But you can do much more for the poor by getting married and remaining faithful to your spouse. Have the courage to use old-fashioned words such as chaste and honorable. Put on a tie. Turn off the trashy reality TV shows. Sit down to dinner every night with your family. Stop using expletives as exclamation marks. Go to church or synagogue.

In this and other ways, we can help restore the constraining forms of moral and social discipline that don’t bend to fit the desires of the powerful—forms that offer the poor the best, the most effective and most lasting, way out of poverty. That’s the truest preferential option—and truest form of respect—for the poor.

Doug Wilson: Father Hunger

The Kingdom:

It has been said that you can't make an omelet without breaking a few eggs, but it has also been said that it's amazing how many eggs you can break without ever making an omelet. 

If a man lives without reference to the kingdom, regardless of how conservative and traditional his family values might be, he is only breaking eggs and not making omelets.

Masculinity and fathering:

In their families, men are much more important, crucial, and influential than they believe themselves to be. It is the easiest thing in the world for a man to grow up, get married, have kids and still think of himself the way he did when he was a boy. In the words of Mark Driscoll, he is 'a boy who shaves.' He believes that he is just one more person living in this household - just one more of the roommates. 

Gilder says: Masculinity [in our society] is treated like sex in Victorian England: a fact of life that society largely condemns and tries to suppress and that its intellectuals deny...

Masculinity does not mean talking out the side of your mouth. It doesn't mean swagger, or machismo, or a swaggering machismo. It does not mean bluster or bravado, or wearing wife-beaters. It does not mean brittle egos or cinder blocks for brains. It does mean quoting [the Bible].

Masculinity is the glad assumption of sacrificial responsibility. A man who assumes responsibility is learning masculinity, and a culture that encourages men to take responsibility is a culture that is a friend to masculinity.

...biblical authority knows how to bleed for others.

Christianity and Deliverance:

John Ortberg comments on how Christians and Christianity has brought huge changes to the needy in society:

Since the birth of Jesus babies and kings and everybody else look different to us now. Jesus bestowed dignity, worth and honour on not only children but every human being whether healthy, sick, male or female. On the following people, Jesus gave dignity:

The autistic or Downs syndrome or otherwise disabled child... the derelict or wretched or broken man or woman who has wasted his or her life away; the homeless, the utterly impoverished, the diseased, the mentally ill, the physically disabled; exiles, refugees, fugitives; even criminals and reprobates. 

These were viewed by our ancient ancestors as burdens to be discarded. To see them instead as bearer of divine glory who can touch our conscience and still our selfishness - this is what Jesus saw and Herod could not see.

One of the most famous sermons in that century was by Gregory of Nyssa (brother of Basil who introduced the vision to create communities that cared for sick people). This is what he said:

Lepers have been made in the image of God. In the same way you and I have, and perhaps preserve that image better than we, let us take care of Christ while there is still time. Let us minister to Christ's needs. Let us give Christ nourishment. Let us clothe Christ. Let us gather Christ in. Let us show Christ honour.

That was the beginning of what would come to be known as hospitals. The Council of Nyssa (same council that produced the Nicene creed) decreed that wherever a cathedral existed, there must be a hospice, a place of caring for the sick and poor... They were the world's first charitable institutions.

Another follower of Jesus named Jean Henri Dunant couldn't stand the sound of soldiers crying out on a battlefield after they had been wounded, so this Swiss philanthropist said he would devote his life to helping them in Jesus' name. This started an organisation in the 1860s that became known as the Red Cross. Every time you see the Red Cross, you are seeing a thumbprint of Jesus.

Years ago I was in Ethiopia when it was under a Marxist regime and the church was mostly underground. One or another of the leaders of the Christian group would frequently be arrested and put into prison, which was horribly over-crowded and unspeakably foul. Other prisoners used to long for a Christian to get put in prison, because if a Christian was jailed, his Christian friends would bring him food - actually, far more food than that one person could eat, and there would be leftovers for everybody. It became the 'prisoner's prayer'; 'God send a Christian to prison.'